Femdom is Sexual but is Not Equal to Sex

This is to explain you my view on why I consider it unacceptable when a professional ‘dominatrix’ is allowing a full sex contact with a client or offer him intimate worship of her bare genitals within a pro domination session.

Nature of Female Power

Separating sex and female domination is not just a hypocritical approach to avoid societal stigma of any job related to sex. First of all it relates to the nature of female power. A woman is seducing, teasing, making a man desperate to possess her. He is ready to do anything to approach her. He is ready to take any pain, suffer, physically and psychologically, feeling himself completely submissive to her.

But seduction is turning into power over men only when a woman is always unreachable. She is teasing – and denying, ALWAYS. She is always over him, never stepping down to his level. She is a true Goddess. When a woman has a sexual intercourse, allowing a man’s cock or a tongue inside of her body, she is losing her power, at that very moment they change the roles. Now a man is controlling her, a man is possessing her. And once he satisfies his desire, he is not controllable any more.

True Dominatrix vs. Fetish Escort

There is a big difference between a dominatrix and a fetish escort. They are both considered sex workers (though I personally more identify myself with an erotic therapist, rather than a sex worker). They both use their erotic powers in their work, BUT a true dominatrix is dominating, and a fetish escort is having sex with a kinky twist.

A fetish escort worker is never in control, she is just an object that a man wants to behave in a specific way to be horny, but without real worship, admiration and submissive attitude.

Femdom is not just about wearing leather or latex, hitting someone with a flogger and making stereotypical poses. It is about understanding how the submissive psychology is working. Why he is aroused by the idea of being controlled, why he is ready to do anything a woman wants. And how to bring him into a subspace.

A true dominatrix and a fetish escort worker have different goals.

A fetish escort is just targeting a MALE PLEASURE & ORGASM. That’s what she is offering, there is nothing about her power in this, no power exchange in this.

A dominatrix is targeting a SUBSPACE. That’s a special space reached by a mixture of hormones in a submissive’s blood, similar to trance.

Subspace is caused by a mix of emotions – fear, admiration, desire, devotion. A dominatrix is using different psychological and physical tools to bring a submissive into a subspace. It is a safe and healing experience. Orgasm may or may not be present at the session, but it is auxiliary, it does not really mean much. The main satisfaction is happening at a complete different level.

Sex is happening in your mind, not in genitals!